Q - Dear Annabelle, My boyfriend of seven months recently broke up with me because he fell out of love with me. We are still good friends, but I still love him very much. We had a wonderful relationship, and we had great communication. I never thought it would come to this. I can tell he doesn't feel the same about me because of the difference in the way he acts. Is there any chance that he could ever love me again? Or can you not love the same person twice? A - Dear Jessica, Ouch!......a broken heart always hurts, but at 15, and, if itās your first one......it REALLY hurts.........LOTS! (But then, you already know that). Yes, itās possible to Īlove the same person twiceā........know why? Because the person IS lovable. (You are, you know). Hereās what most likely happened: Just as very young children grow through stages in their lives, YOU, at 15, are growing through the Īgetting-to-be-a-young-lady and learning-how-the-world-worksā stage. Feeling, at this age, are often transitory and, though, especially in young girls, they can leave lasting marks, (as in, ćI wonder what ever happened to...?ā) when youāre actually IN the situation it can hurt like all get out. Will there be other fellows? Absolutely. Would you prefer to have THIS one be the Īkeeperā? Probably. (For what itās worth, I can remember, at 15, saying to the boy I so desperately Īlovedā, ćOh, I wish this moment would last for EVER!!ä Now, that was on August 8th of that year, (see what I mean about memories being so strong at this age?) and, Iād sure hate to still Ībe thereā! Life is a ongoing process of growth. Letās talk for a moment about Īfeelingsā. ĪFeelingsā are (usually), transitory.....in a marriage, people are not always Īin loveā every day. They have a COMMITMENT to that marriage and that commitment keeps them going through the Īdown timesā........and there are in life, ALWAYS going to be Īdown timesā. Now, about your friend...yes, heāll probably always be a friend, IF you donāt make him uneasy as HE goes through HIS developmental stages. Remember, at this age, everything happens pretty quickly. It may seem unfair, but, just as, at the time when SCHOOLING is so important -- ( yes, it IS! ) -- youāre also trying to get a handle on YOUR emotions. Heās moved on because his Īfeelings changed'. Drat! ......Thatās just Īthe way it isā. Itās not reasonable to expect a fifteen year old guy to have a mature manās response. (Note that I said Īmature MANā........any person with a ĪYā chromosome can be a Īmaleā.....it takes real character to be a ĪMANā.....and, in this world, believe it or not......CHARACTER COUNTS! ) So, take heart, youāre learning lessons....(go read Īthe Rules for Being Humanā)....and youāll survive. Yes, you get a few Ībumps and bruisesā, but thatās life. Learning along the way makes it ever so much more fun! - Annabelle