Q - Dear Annabelle, I have a dilemma I need some advice on. There are these two girls whom I care for greatlyand one of them I have been with once before and still love her but with this other person I have never even gotten a chance with in a relationship other than friends. I have only discovered recently how Ii feel about the one I have never been with and one donāt know how to go about telling her. The other one knows how I feel but wonāt take me back anytime soon, so what should I do about the one that I never got a chance with ? A - Dear Aragorn, Well, being 16 and running through the sexual equivalent of a Īcandy storeā can be quite exhiliarating, yes? Other than having sexul feelings and thoughs 60 seconds of every minute, have you given any thought to your future? (Like what you would do if one of these...or any other......girls get pregnant? ) That IS the purpose of all that hormonal rush youāre feeling, or had you hoped that program had been overwritten? You sound like a typical nice young fellow who wants to have just everthing and RIGHT NOW!.......... (Aragorn, you wouldnāt get into a car, turn on the engine, put the car in gear, release the parking brake, press on the accelerator..............and then get OUT of the car would you?? Well, that is, .....in essence what you are doing with your life. Your brains have taken off and your engineās running at top speed.) My saying Īstop itā wonāt make a difference. I DO however, want you to take a deep breath and THINK for a moment. This is serious stuff here, Aragon, and if you arenāt ready to be somebodyās father just yet, quit nailinā the girls. Yes, sex is fun. Having a baby is a HUGE responsibility and YOU, sir have an obligation to yourself AND to your future family to have that family AFTER youāve gotten the best education that you can. You REALLY want the prettiest girl? Well, GET that good education, get a GREAT job, doing, not only what you have a passion for, but can make a goodly salary at...then you have the wherewithall to have the lady of your choosing! (And by then, the Īchoosingā will be easier too). Now, back to the Ītwo girlsā problem. Itās my guess that, by now there may be even MORE girls available. Just slooooooow down a bit. There are OTHER ways of expressing your sexuality that wonāt have some girlās father coming after you with a shotgun or having you break a string of hearts. Youāre at the age where what you havenāt done yet is always more enticing...........thatās a component of being young, and being immature. Maturity comes when you can put a Īspacerā in between the urge to DO something and actually doing it. It takes time.....youāll get there. Youāll do fine. - Annabelle