Q - Dear Annabelle, There is this girl I really LOVE, but she gives me mixed signs and I don't know what to do. She's been through bad relationships so I kinda understand how she is , I wanna be with her so bad but I'm scared to ask her. I don't know what she's going through so, I'm asking a woman so I can get some inside info. If there is any help, please respond to me A - Dear Bez, Hot tip: In this world the very BEST that you can do is to Īgive it your best shotā.......so take a deep breath and letās take a look at what you have here. #1 Youāre 17......feelings are at once hot and heavy and very tender.......young men write some of the best poetry theyāre ever going to write at 17. #2 No one really has a clue how to handle all the rush of emotions and urges that are careening around and, heaven forbid, anyone should sit down with mom or dad and have a Q&A session. #3 Q&A sessions with parents are often fraught with the panic of the Parentās Memories of their OWN behaviors and relief, (THANK YOU, LORD), that things didnāt go terribly wrong when THEY were this age. #4 Girls are notoriously emotionally fickle, (remember everyoneās just getting their footing here), and what she says one day may...or may not....be operant the next. #5 Most everyone has a (pretty) good time and most everyone gets hurt at some time or other. #6 You just donāt get a Īplay bookā for this age, so try to maintain a sense of humor ........that actually makes it a lot easier. #7 This (probably) isnāt your marriage partner anyway, itās just Īpracticeā so try not to invest it with TOO much angst. This may hurt, but youāll live. OK, having said all that......(and in my house everyone behaves, because if they donāt we do Īdeath-by-lectureā)......hereās what to try: Now, Iām going to assume you have good posture, (yes, thatās actually a Ībiggieā here), a great smile and twinkly, warm, smiling eyes.....girls LOVE those features. You are going to LISTEN to her. You are going to TELL her that you are taking her to a film and out for pizza. You are going to meet her parents and whatever siblings come straggling to the door, and whatever pets come yapping about will be your friends. You are going to return her to her home, before midnight, tell her that you Īliked her laugh and her sense of humorā and you are, (maybe), going to kiss the tip of your finger, put it on her nose and leave..... right then.....with a smile, and saying that Īmaybe youād like to call her sometime. Then....at school you can smile at her occasionally. You are NEVER going to talk about her with your buddies or anyone else. You are not going to allow anyone to talk about her in your presence...thatās gossip. You are going to develop a reputation for being a real gentlemen, albeit an intriguing one.........with a Īhintā of mystery. You are going to ask for her help with some of your homework. You are going to help her with her homework. You are NOT going to get involved with her sexually. You are going to allow her to catch YOU. Thatās enough for now. - Annabelle