Q - Dear Annabelle, Help!! I went out with a guy for two years on and off and a lot of people, including my family, hate it when we are together as a couple. I love him so much and I know he loves me. Recently we have been seeing each other secretly so we don't have to deal with what Īother peopleā think. I know this is unfair and he has decided he wants to be open about it and I don't know if I can. I really love him but I don't know if I can go through more torment from my family and friends about how wrong we are for each other. What should I do? A - Dear Virginia, Iām going to make this really simple...........you get to give up your family and friends, (who I will BET know whereof they speak), or the guy. Now, Īromanceā is such a lovely thing that itās really easy to think ĪRomeo and Julietā were a wonderful idea.....not to mention all the other Īstar-crossedā couples in literature and film. Virginia, youāre 19, you wonāt even BEGIN to have your head on straight until youāre 25+. Youāre playing a dangerously heartbreaking game here. Tell you what...... If heās the Īrightā guy for you.....quit sneaking around with him. Only a weakling does that...........and give the relationship two years....and NO SEX! (Thatās how babies get made and young girls bond with inappropriate people.) If, after two years, heās still around AND has an excellent education and the beginnings of an excellent career....(as do you)....THEN you can show your family and friends that their collective judgment was in error. Right now? knock it off....youāre headed for trouble. - Annabelle