Q - Dear Annabelle, I've known this guy, Jeremy for bout 2 years now. I'm very very, very much in love with him. He's been really wonderful to me these past couple of years.. always being there when I needed someone to talk to in my times of hardship. He was even there to share my joy with me during the happiest moments of my life and vice versa. I very very much want to start a relationship with him but I can't express myself to him. Whenever we're together.. we try avoiding that subject. This is due to the fact that he still can't get over his feelings for his X-girlfriend from a previous relationship. Sometimes he still talks bout her to me and I'd just pretend that it's really OK with me..but Annabelle, deep down inside.. whenever I hear her name.. my heart really hurts. For these two years.. I've closed my eyes on all the other guys in life. Although they might be nice and care bout me a lot.. I still prefer Jeremy to anyone else in the world. Do you think I'm stupid for doing this? This whole thing is gonna drive me crazy one of these days... What should I do, Annabelle? Please don't ask me to reveal my feelings to him because I just can't bring myself to. What if it'll just end this whole friendship altogether? Please do help me. A - Dear Yearning, Do I think youâre stupid? No. You say that you donât want to reveal your feelings to him, hoping, I guess that heâll suddenly sweep you in his arms and declare undying love. Youâve got me in quite a spot here. Letâs see what we can figure out. Perhaps you might say, the next time he mentions the ex, ăIf I were youâre ex girlfriend, would you always talk about me when youâre with another girl?ä If you have the courage to say that, there should be some discernable evidence of where the relationship is going. Or, you might hint that when you DO grow up and marry that it would be wonderful if he had a twin hidden somewhere waiting for you. These two might seem terribly scary.......as well as obvious...... but, in this world, itâs an awfully good idea to ASK for what you want. Youâd be really amazed just how often you get it. - Annabelle