Q - Dear Annabelle, My boyfriend is so jealous of me , and he gets so moody, and angry at me. He says he loves me but he donât trust me. I don't know what to do ? What do you think? A - Dear Tessa, Hmmmmmmmmmmm, letâs take a look at this. Now, youâre 18......how is it that you feel that the Îidealâ guy behaves this way? Check your Îlist of things important in my lifeâ.......where does it say, ăTessa, go out and find yourself a guy who is insecure, controlling, and weak?ä (And, where, Tessa, did YOU get the Îprogrammingâ that allows you to accept being treated in such a shabby manner? Tessa, are you aware that no one can treat you badly without YOUR PERMISSION? This fellow doesnât love you.....heavens, he doesnât even love himself! You live in a big city,......let him go find someone who thinks this treatment is just fine..........and I trust that Îsomeoneâ isnât YOU! Oh, there IS one other little thing, Tessa,...........you arenât a Îgame-playerâ are you? I mean, when you have a Îboyfriendâ, you wouldnât be so manipulative as to TRY to make him jealous WOULD you? You understand, Tessa, Iâm assuming that you are a young lady of integrity..........and that you have too much class to act badly. Would that be a..........correct........assumption? - Annabelle