Q - Dear Annabelle, My best friend, Ashley has become obsessed with guys. Every time we go somewhere together, she'll always dump me for some guy she meets. When a guy is interested in me she'll do anything she can to get him to like her! She thinks she's god's-gift to all guys, but some of my guy friends have told me that everyone just think she's easy. she's my bestfriend, but Ashley is really getting on my nerves. Could you please give me any advice?! A - Dear Anna, Ashley is lucky to have you for a friend......lucky that you care enough to ask for help for her -- Īcause, whether she knows it or not, sheās crying out for help .....and doesnāt know how to get what she needs. If she continues on THIS path, sheās going to land herself in a load of trouble. From what you tell me, sheās displaying behavior that indicates a couple of things. The most obvious is that she is woefully lacking in self esteem. True, her hormones are running rampant, but that alone doesnāt account for her behavior. If Īhormonesā were the cause, then all teenagers would be running amok and thatās just not the case. You see, if she felt that she were a worthy person, she would also be aware that scarcity and value are inter linked. Because the boys view her as Īeasyā she is also viewed as lacking value....which neatly coincides with how she views herself! I donāt know what her home life is like, but unless she gets a good talking to by someone whose counsel she values, this is not going to turn out well for her. Adolescence is a difficult enough time without having sexual promiscuity into the mix. Now, about WHY it is that Īsome kidsā get into early sex. Those young people lacking passion for their future and themselves, will often respond to their raging hormonal bath by acting out sexually. Thatās where their Īpassionā is spent.....and then they call it Īloveā. Empty lives can become filled with substitutes for life.........and since, (as youāve heard), Īnature abhors a vacuumā (yawn), that Īemptinessā becomes filled with sexual activity. Now, that premature sexual behavior brings its own set of problems will soon become, if it hasnāt already, self-evident. I wish her luck....actually, I wish her a good dose of good sense. Sheās lucky to have you for a friend..though if what I hear you saying is what I THINK I hear you saying, sheās about to lose your friendship if she doesnāt mend her ways. You might want to talk with her about this as well. - Annabelle