Q - Dear Annabelle, My name is John and I reached your web site just because I really don't understand my girlfriend. I really don't know what is wrong or if anything is wrong, so I'd like you help with this. It seems to me that my girlfriend she is very secure, but sometimes she gets angry at me or irritated too often. How can I make her attitude with me more even keeled? A - Dear Jack, While you cannot Īmakeā her attitude any different, you CAN say to her these things; 1. When you say______. 2. I feel__________ , and, 3. In the future, I would appreciate it if you would__________. Now, you will have told her how her actions affect you. You have given her information. What she DOES with that information will give YOU information. It is then up to you to decide whether or not you wish to continue with the relationship. You have not said how old you are, (I will guess that you are in the teen years, Īcause thatās where these things are usually still unresolved). Keep in mind that some females are more sensitive to mood swings during their monthly menstrual cycle. That the hormones fluctuate is a given. It is, however, in my never-to-be-humble opinion, the responsibility of the female in question to be aware of how her Īmoodsā change over the course of the month and, if Īfeedbackā from those in her surround is that she has become downright unbearable, then it behooves her to moderate her exposure to others if she cannot remain civil in times of hormonal stress. Thatās only fair. Donāt let yourself be Īcontrolledā by anotherās bad moods. That only reinforces that method of communication. If you find that you feel that it is YOUR responsibility to Īkeep her on an even keelā then it mightnāt be the worst idea in the world for you to seek the wisdom of a good psychologist to survey your infant past where Īcheering upā a depressed or angry female was your idea of survival. There are a lot of wonderful females out there........you might not want to spend your life shoring up an unstable one. - Annabelle