Q - Dear Annabelle, First off I would like to say that I also would like to be in psychology and counseling. And mostly in relationship and personal problems. Well I have a problem that I can't seem to solve by myself. There is a girl that I have been interested in and it seemed to me, that she was interested in me. I asked her out and she told me that she had to think about it. Later that day, i found out that she liked someone else and she still never gave me an answer yet. I am extremely confused if I should tell her that I know about it or if i should just let her give me an answer and if she says yes, just live with knowing that she likes someone else. A - Dear Terry, Iâll bet you mom thinks youâre Îcuteâ.........(now what does Annabelle mean by that??) Look, that this problem youâre describing has existed, probably since there have been adolescents is well known......to the grownups. Weâve had to traverse this ground, and it doesnât even look as if the words have changed much. Look, this hurts YOU.....but YOU will survive. At 14, youâre just getting the last.....and most powerful, (thank you very much).....of your endocrine systems...your hormones have just kicked in. Girls are suddenly the alien species.......and English doesnât seem to work anymore. Unless you learn to develop a sense of humor about all of this youâre going to take it waaaaay too seriously. Iâm going to assume that YOU are, essentially, just fine. Working from that assumption it is now your assignment to, #1 get good grades in school..(THAT is *important*)......#2..play sports, (that will run off extra energy and anxieties), #3 learn to laugh and, if you have a talent for it, #4 tell a few, (clean), jokes. #5 Watch other people to see Îhowâ they are in the world...what Îworks or Îdoesnât workâ...and do try to take it all with a 'grain of salt'. Realize that this stage, until about 25, is about learning to interact with others in a group........and, if you will learn to place yourself in a position to earn a very respectable income, (which attracts girls), by being VERY attentive in school, you will be very glad that you did. This is the Îlong viewâ here..........(learn to take that in life).....it will save you a LOT of grief in the short.....AND in the long run. Now, about your female friend....no, donât tell her anything, that would just make her uncomfortable. Donât ever gossip or divulge information about people...thatâs tacky and can cause irreparable harm, to others and to yourself. Just keep smiling, know that things DO,eventually, work out...enjoy the good stuff when it does happen and enjoy the ride....itâs a good one! - Annabelle