Q - Dear Annabelle, 4 months ago, my best friend--Sara got a new boyfriend -- Michael. i was happy 4 her at first, but then--she started ditching me. She did everything with him and nothing with me. I asked her (just last week) if she wanted to do some x-mas shopping w/me and she said no cuz she was going with Michael. i asked if i could join her and she said no. i tried talking to her but it didn't work. A - Dear Jessica, Iām sorry that your friend has gotten boy-crazy. This is not unusual for a 13 year old....but itās very unfortunate. It hurts your heart and sheās not aware that a good girlfriend is one of lifeās true treasures. You, as her Ībestā friend would last throughout her lifetime, but this current Īflameā, (and thatās what this is, really, will likely burn itself out within the year.) Sometimes 13 year olds are so excited about Īhaving a boyfriendā that itās not unlike the Ītwitterpatedā animals in ĪBambiā........itās a silly, giddy kind of wonderfulness that marks the beginning of being Īgrownupā. (Of course, when one is Īgrownupā one has enough maturity....and class....not to ignore oneās friends.) I know that, at 13, you donāt just go out and find a new best friend, and that youāre feeling pretty lonely just now. Iād like to tell you that it will all work itself out...and it may. You might ask for some Īalone timeā with her and sit down and talk about how you understand about HER excitement, but that also YOU care about her AND your friendship. If she goes too overboard she could end up getting into trouble with this. Iām surprised that her folks would allow single dating at this young age. Itās not really in her best interests. I hope that when YOU become interested in boys that you neither dump YOUR friends in favor of the fellows or spend time single dating. I know that sounds a little old fashioned, but there are good reasons not to put yourself in temptationās way. - Annabelle