Q - Dear Annabelle, I went out with this guy who I broke up with because I am afraid of getting too close to someone and getting hurt. I miss him, but I am confused. A week ago I was at his house and he told me to "get out". He said he couldnāt look at me anymore. So a week after that he calls me and we talk for almost 3 hours. I was so happy because I miss him. But then I went to his house today, (first time since he kicked me out and he didn't really talk to me, he kinda ignored me.) Then a friend asked him, (in front of me), if we Īmade upā and he said Īnoā. I am upset about it. I care so much about him and miss him. Even though he tells me everything is cool he keeps telling this other friend it is not. I donāt understand why. A - Dear Lynn, Well, I donāt understand either, but I DO understand that heās behaving in a way thatās not in your best interests. Why heās treating you this way is not nearly as interesting as why you are allowing someone to treat you this way. (Donāt set yourself up as a Ītargetā and then get miffed if you get shot at). Since youāre concerned with being hurt, it would be a very wise idea to confine yourself to people who behave a good deal better than this fellow does. Lynn, peopleās actions count and, if someone does something that indicates they do not think well of you..find someone else. There are, simply, people in the world who are bad mannered. Now, since his behavior confuses you, Iād be willing to bet that your four-year-old self got rebuffed a lot by daddy just at the age when you need his admiration and acceptance. Well, you canāt change what happened then, however you CAN be aware of the opportunities you have to again expose yourself to rejection..and then go the other way. - Annabelle