Q - Dear Annabelle, Hi! I am 19 year old guy who is madly in love with a girl aged 13. I met her four years ago as a friend but when she returns last year she was grown up physically and mentally matured compared to the children of her age. She if I loved her, I told her that I care a lot about her but I am not in a position to in a relationship with her. She said she is going to find someone else because I turned her down. You know something, I am deeply in love with her but she is too young. Please help. A - Dear Nquzana, Donāt worry, the chances of a 13 year old growing up to be a match for a 19year old are extraordinarily slim. No, youāre not Īsickā, Iām sure sheās attractive to you, but a more reasonable match would be someone in your own immediate age group. That she said sheās Īgoing to find someone elseā only indicates the enormous immaturity of a 13 year old. I know things are a bit different in your country, but this young lady has a lot of maturing to do.....and she sounds petulant, to boot. Well, remain friends, but know that youāre most likely to bond permanently in the next several years...with someone nearer your own age. - Annabelle