Q - Dear Annabelle, There is this girl I want to ask out on a date. We went to school together but I haven't seen or spoken to her in over two years. And now I want to phone her and ask her for a date but I don't know how. She is going to be wondering why I am phoning her. And how do I know if she doesn't have a boyfriend already? A - Dear Hesitant, Youāre afraid sheāll reject you....and she will....unless she marries you. Hesitant, everyone, before they are THE one, gets rejected at some point. The Īdating gameā is really the Īmating gameā and itās an ongoing process of selection. The various partners come together and break apart over and over again, until the Īlastā time, which is when the whole process pays off. Now, in order to get into the game as it were, you have to take a chance..... a chance that you will be rejected over and over again ....because some day, you wonāt be. Now, if you want to increase your chances of having a young lady say Īyesā when you ask her out, the first thing you have to do is to contact her. Tell her that youād like to see a film and will she go with you? If she has a boyfriend, sheāll let you know....thatās not the end of the world .....he wonāt last anyway. Just get out there and practice your dating skills. Youāre 19, you have years yet, so make these first few attempts with the knowledge that it may work or it may not....remember, there are always more women. I know that this girl seems Īspecialā and, perhaps she is. You still cannot sit on the sidelines if you hope to win your heartās desire....you must join the game in progress. - Annabelle