Q - Dear Annabelle, I'm confused. I like this guy but my best friend likes the same guy. The thing is, is that she has liked him so much longer than I have, and I feel that I don't deserve him as much as she does because it's been so long. Previously he liked one of our friends and my best friend was not thrilled about it. I want them to get together yet I want him for myself. I don't want to ruin our friendship so what should I do about this? How do I get over him? A - Dear Opal, Well, to put it bluntly, youâre 16 and, at 16, girlfriends that you may have for your entire life are much more important than a guy friend who will vanish in a much shorter length of time. Just get off this Îshe deserves him more than I doâ stuff.....people arenât prizes to be won or passed around and, in this world, if you spend time letting others pass you by for something YOU really want, youâll spend a great deal of time in resentment. If you want something, YOU go after it. Spend these next few years developing a good sense of your self along with your integrity and character, (God sent the 10 Commandments in case you need a guideline), and focus on the fact that YOU are as worth of Îhavingâ as anyone else. Donât worry that youâll turn into a rapacious b---h, you wonât, just donât be giving away the store when you see things that YOU would like to have...ok? It sounds as if you let your Îbest friendâ rule your life. How about getting clear that your life is YOURS? Try it, I heartily recommend the knowledge. - Annabelle