Q - Dear Annabelle, I'm seeing this guy and although we haven't been together very long, a month, I care for him deeply. However, today I was told that he might have gotten a previous lover pregnant. Even though this would have occurred before we were together, I find myself extremely hurt and confused on what I should do. He was very promiscuous before but hasn't had sex with anyone since he was tested for STDs last month. I know this is part of him I must accept for this relationship to continue. I do want this relationship to continue, but I don't know what step to take next so that we may successfully overcome this barrier. Can you help? A - Dear Sarah, Iād be willing to bet that what I have to say to you will be of no interest. You already know the answer to this one.......this guyās not good for you and you know it! The question I have for YOU is, why would YOU, Sarah, put yourself in the company of a young man who even HAS to be tested for STDās? Why would you, Sarah, even have anything to do with a fellow who would risk pregnancy with a woman whom he has no intention of marrying? Why would you, Sarah, treat your SELF so shabbily that you would expose yourself to such a person? You see, Sarah, the people we pick as our companions in life are reflections of ourselves. Go back to the first page of ĪAnnabelleā and read ĪThe Rules for Being Humanā. You don't have to agree with them....they are fully operative in the universe regardless of your willing participation. They apply to YOU, Sarah....and to everyone else, as well. - Annabelle