Q - Dear Annabelle, There is this girl who is a Junior in high school next door who is absolutely gorgeous. I am currently a Senior and think that she is the best that i have seen. I currently go to a boarding school in Mass. The problem that I run into is that I can't get up the courage to ask her out or ask her if she wants to hook up. Help me please it is driving me crazy. I am 18 and think she is the world. Thank you A - Dear Josh, Yes. Now, what constitutes Īour bestā involves an engagement ring and a wedding date......AND living separately until you are married. Trust me, the Ītwo adorable kittensā do not care whether you are married or not....but YOU are going to care, and soon. Youāre playing at being Īgrownupā and youāve missed some very important stuff here. A very BIG one is that YOU AND HE havenāt finished growing yet and youāve already aligned yourself in what you THINK will be a permanent relationship. (Would you care to guess how many people I hear from, people a good deal further down lifeās road, who have done what YOU two are doing and are now dealing with emotional deadness and regret?) Jennifer, both of you have Īfeelingsā....but not the maturity to act in your own best interests. I would be very surprised is ANY adult, (i.e., parent type), told you that living together is THE way to happiness. ĪGetting naked and doing itā is a biological function... and one that produces kids. Within 3 YEARS the Īfunā that you are now having is going to become very hum drum, ......absent the total commitment to each other, (thatās the Īmarriageā part), and the maturity to make it through the relationship doldrums. I know that you have all sorts of excuses for NOT doing what I recommend. IF you do things in the Īproper orderā and invest each of those things with the reverence they so properly deserve, you have a much better chance of achieving your heartās desire. Jennifer, the day will come, sooner rather than later, when you know what Iām telling you is true.....actually, you know it now.....donāt you? Going back and starting over is going to be MUCH easier if you take action immediately. *Think*. How much do you want what you SAY you want? WHEN do you want it? And, Jennifer, WHAT are you WILLING TO GIVE UP to GET it????? - Annabelle