Q - Dear Annabelle, How do I know if he really loves me? A - Dear Andrea, Simple. Youâll know by his actions, (which is all we have to judge anyone by, when you come right down t it). He will treat you kindly and with caring and will respect who you are. He will not try to bend you to his will. He will not try to talk you into behaviors that are not in your best long term interests. He will encourage you to become your highest self. He will not gossip about you among his friends. A really good description of love is found in 1st Corinthians 13 in the Bible. - Annabelle