Q - Dear Annabelle, I met this girl online and we've been talking for about 2 months now. She really wanted to get together at first but then her friends didn't like me and she says all this Îstuffâ was going on in her life. When I ask her why she doesn't want to be together she says "I can't handle a boyfriend right now, but I really really love you" we haven't even met yet so I dunno what to do. I mean I know its only been 2 months but I feel as if I'm in love. I call her like everyday too and she knows I love her dearly because I almost killed myself when she told me she couldn't be with me. She says she just wants to be friends. But I want her soooo bad that I can't just be friends. I mean itâs not like I'm desperate or anything I swear I'm a model and i can get any girl I chose. Plus this girl lives in Orange County that's like 45 minutes away from me. I mean I'll be there everyday. all I want is her heart. I know she loves me cause she always cries when she realizes the fact that we can't be together. That's one of a thing's she says is holding her back, that we live so far, but i don't think that's a factor cause I'll be there everyday if she wants. Her mom is really strict as well .she doesn't let Shahed(the girl i love) go out with or talk to guys on the phone. Anyways I really don't know what I should do could you please help me? if you need any more information just mail me A - Dear Haaris, Honestly, I do think you adolescents are just getting to be my favorite people. Look, there are a couple of things we have to deal with here...one, you do NOT kill yourself over a girl...or over anything else for that matter. Think for a minute, did Indiana Jones let HIS challenges get him down? *Of course not!!* Look, youâre just starting out on this mighty quest called Îlifeâ and what good will it do the world if we lose such a promising young man? Too, if I understand you correctly, you girlfriend is a Muslim (Shahed), and those young ladies are very closely watched by their parents. I know you probably donât spend a lot of time with fairy stories, but check out myths and fables and see how many young men have gotten into who-knows-what perils gallivanting off after unavailable maidens! Good heavens, if everything were easy, life wouldn't have itâs drama and adolescents wouldnât be adolescents! Now, you say that her mom wonât let her talk on the phone yet you and she DO talk. Hmmmmmm. Look, simmer down a bit, just enjoy being in all this turmoil....(yes, enjoy)....youâre writing your own story here and you may have a screenplay before youâre through. Look, I know it hurts something fierce to be thwarted so, but, at this age, you lack a little power here. The best thing you can do, really, aside from attending to your studies...which is REALLY important........is to enjoy the exchanges that you DO have. If this keeps up, youâll meet her one day and there ARE the U.S. mails you know. Many young people have long distance relationships and the mails have done just fine for decades. Before all is said and done, youâll be a fine poet and you will have learned a good deal about yourself and about what you really CAN deal with. Now, your parents can invite her AND her parents out to dinner in Orange County. OK? Be patient..and, I know that, at 14, this is hard. Itâs a wonderful behavior to learn......patience will serve you well in this world. So will cleverness, wit and charm. Now, youâre not that many years away from being old enough to drive. Get good grades in school so you can get a work permit and earn sufficient capital to buy a car when youâre 18. You said youâre a model, so perhaps youâre already on that path. Keep the faith and learn to pace yourself. Youâll do fine in this world......you really will. - Annabelle