Q - Dear Annabelle, After recovering from a troubled relationship involving sexual assault, I feel ready to resume dating again. A new guy came to my church and I think he keeps looking at me. What does this mean and what should I do? A - Dear Princess, Well, anytime a new person joins your group you act just as you would want someone to act if it were YOU who had just joined the group. You be pleasant, polite and friendly, introducing the new person to all of your friends and asking if that person would like to help you do whatever it is that you do in that particular group. Now, at 18, to have gotten yourself into a situation where you had been assaulted, you are now aware of the potential for such things. It might be a very good idea if you avoided any and all situations that might provide opportunity for another person to behave inappropriately. While we are not responsible for an otherâs behavior, we ARE responsible to take care with ours selves and to not, unnecessarily, put ourselves in positions where inappropriate behavior may occur. - Annabelle