Q - Dear Annabelle, I have been with my boyfriend for a year and seven months, with half of that time being a long distance relationships.Ê I am having a problem with trusting him because he does not share with me things like going to parties and hanging out with girls that are just "friends".Ê He is afraid I will judge him, but I only want the truth.Ê Whenever I tell him this, he does not understand.Ê How can I get him to open up to me? A - Dear Confused, Itâs possible that he feels threatened by your questioning. From what youâve told me, it sounds as if you are ready for a closer relationship with him than he wants with you. If you are not able to back off a bit, perhaps this is not the fellow with whom you want to continue a relationship. You donât say how old you are, however, this behavior is rather juvenile, Îjuvenileâ because it is immature. Now, your best bet to find a relationship where the person adores you, would to become such a delightful and scintillating female, such a rare find, that you draw to you a wider selection of fellows. Then when one doesnât behave the way you would prefer, there is a large pool of others from which you could pick. Remember, the scarcer the commodity, the higher the price. Your boyfriend has interests outside of you....if you would have that be different, you must acquire more attractive qualities....then it could be HE who does not have enough to keep YOU interested! - Annabelle