Q - Dear Annabelle, There is a guy that I worked with who I get along great with. Lately, we've been spending a lot of time together. I really am starting to fall for him, but there's only one thing in the way--he's 13 years older than I am. He already told me that he wants to get to know me better. I'm scared to take it to another level because of the age difference. Is age nothing but a number? When we're together, it doesn't feel like I'm with an older guy, it just feels like I'm with a great person. What are your thoughts on this? A - Dear Dee, No, Īageā is not Īnothing but a numberā......at your respective ages. Since youāre 17, this 30 year old is not a match for you .....for a couple of reasons. Thereās something very wrong with a 30 year old who is showing interest in a female so very much younger. Now, lets assume that you, at 17 are a reasonable Īmatchā for him. That would mean that he has such a personal maturity deficit that nothing that will .....ever happen will allow him to pace you as YOU develop. Of course you find him interesting and youāre probably flattered as well. As you continue to mature, he will seem less interesting because you will to grow, and he has a glitch in his programming somewhere. It would be very much in your interest to stick with guys closer to you in age ....whatever this guy is out for is NOT in your best interests. Iām sure you DO feel as if youāre with a Īgreat personā......he, however is in a position to take advantage of your inexperience in the world and he is very much poised to do so. - Annabelle