Q - Dear Annabelle, I've been with this guy for about seven months, I suspect that he still loves his ex-girlfriend, but when I ask him he says they are best friends. He is not allowed to see her, just call and say hi. Although I don't know whether he sneaks to see her or what. I have a baby from another guy and my boyfriend seems to not be ready to handle kids. They get along but sometimes they don't. I want him to be the guy for me but I don't know how to fix all our problems. Tell me what I should do, please. Is he even worth the try? I know he cares about me, butI don't know how much and how far he would go for me. A - Dear Sheila, You canāt Īfixā the problems.......and one of the Īproblemsā is that youāre not seeing what IS. What IS is that this fellow is still connected to his ex girlfriend, (and Iām wondering how it is that heās not allowed to see her...maybe her parents have better sense than yours?) He says that he doesnāt want kids....and you have already made a baby with someone else. YOU want him to be the guy for you......and heās not emotionally available for the kind of relationship that YOU want. At this point it would be a much better thing for you to concentrate on being a good mother to your child, to get yourself a good education, and to find a way to have a career at home so you can be your childās best support system. Later, when your child is five or six and in school, you can begin to socialize again. First things first....you were so in a rush to be sexually active, now deal with the consequences of that impulsiveness......you brought your baby to life....help him to grow up safe and loved and feeling secure. You owe that to him, to the community .........and to yourself. - Annabelle