Q - Dear Annabelle, I LOVE AN IDIOT! I seriously do. He's like my best friend, but I care a lot for him. He's about to go to jail, he's a drop-out and sex-craved nut head. Were really good friends but he confuses me. He tells me he loves me, misses me, he gets mad when I'm wit other guys yet were only "friends" and also asks me to sleep wit him..usually he jokes...but I think its wishful jokin...I don't have a clue. I grew up with this boy and i seen him break girls hearts and girls break his...the only good thing is my mom likes him and i tell her about where me and him stand and she tells me" well baby, either forget about him or hope when he's comes out of jail he grew up some" and its not that easy. I know I'm young, and I know i don't know the true meaning of love but I want him to quit confusing me and hurting himself and it seems i cant stop it! A - Dear Leigha-Marie, I donāt know if my answering you is even going to do any good. Iāll be very honest with you. You, at 14, have the opportunity to make something of your life...or to continue on the path that you believe you have to stay on. Leigha Marie, are you even AWARE that thereās an entire world of opportunity out there....a world that doesnāt involve you being attached to what is called a Īconduct disorderedā juvenile? I know heās your friend, Leigha Marie, and friendship is a lovely thing, but itās also a two way street. Iāll be even straighter with you than your mom....let this guy go, hon. Itās not that you Īdonāt know the true meaning of loveā, ..thatās something that you only learn after have lived yet another lifetime from now, ...if youāre lucky. What you really donāt know is that the choices that you make now are going to impact on your life....for the next several decades. That fellow isnāt confusing you, Leigha Marie, YOU are confusing you. You have an ideal guy in your head, (which has little to do with reality..but thatās because youāre 14), and this fellow just doesnāt fit what your Īidealā is. You're not confused...you know what the truth is, and youāre disappointed. Leigha Marie, Iām going to level with you. At 14, if you have a decent intelligence and the will to win, you can, through sheer determination and guts, through education and wit, put yourself in a position to attract, when youāre of an appropriate age to marry, a stunning mate that will take care of you and your mom for the rest of your lives. If you can let this guy go and turn your heart and mind to your education......a really excellent education, if you will prepare yourself for a truly excellent career and invest your money wisely, not only will you have a wonderful guy wanting you, but your mom will bust her buttons with pride...you will too. The path youāre on will lead to the same place that all your girlfriends and other friends have gone and are going. You wrote to me and got a big-time nag. Talk this over with your mom. She loves you...and she can encourage you to do the right thing.........for you, for your future..and for your childrenās future. The guy has cast his lot......he has the harvest of what he has sown...........YOU, Leigha Marie, have a shot at soaring up and over this lifestyle...your mom can help you. - Annabelle