Q - Dear Annabelle, I love one guy for almost 2 years.But he loves my best friend Anastasia. Don't think I am just a little stupid girl who sits and cries, "why he doesn't love me?" It's a real life. I understand. My love has become some kind of delusion.All my thoughts are him. All my dreams are about him.He is the only man I need. I tried to date with other guy but... Hope you understand. My question is: CAN I DO SOMETHING THAT CAN HELP ME TO BE LOVED BY HIM? ( I forgot to tell. He knows that I love him and ready to do anything for him). Anastasia loves other guy. She is going to marry him. So Ruslan is also unhappy. WHAT CAN YOU ADVISE ME? WHAT SHOULD I DO? I know that it's real love. I'd give my all to be with him. A - Dear Maria, I know the Russian winters can be brutal, but letās not have you giving Īyour allā for a guy whoās in love with someone else...please save that for the guy youāll find who loves YOU the way you deserve to be loved and whom YOU love too. (I know this doesnāt even register with you just now.) Look, youāre 18 and, at 18, hearts do break..something fierce. 18 is simply the time of life when things like this happen .....youāre young enough to be having strong feelings for the first time and donāt yet have enough experience, or context, to protect yourself from just the situation in which you now find yourself. No, there is NOTHING you can do to help him to love you, encourage him to love you or make him love you. Thatās just one of the awful truths of life.....there is n.o.t.h.i.n.g. *sigh*. Look, if there WERE something that could be done, weād have no good Russian novels, poetry or drama......no Shakespeare, or any of the other wonderful romantic writers that we have, courtesy of someone being in love with someone other than the one they are SUPPOSED to be in love with. (Sorry). Look, you feel awful, and rightly so. And youāll feel awful for as long as this persists.......and it WILL persist if you Īpick at itā as you would a sore thatās trying to heal and you keep pulling off that scab thatās trying to cover it over. (Ugh,...sorry about the image). Unrequited young love is, as I said, virtually universal. Now, Anastasia is in love with and is marrying someone else, that means Ruslan is having some of the same experiences that YOU are having. Thereās nothing in the rules about the two of you getting together and having a communal cryfest.......just remember HE loves HER and YOU love HIM.....so donāt get involved in anything that does something inappropriate, (like creating a new life). If this goes on long enough one or the other of you is bound to tire of the drama of the whole thing and then youāll either decide the other is just a fine partner, (which CAN happen and which YOU already feel), or youāll just get on with your life in a new direction. Life is full of peculiarities, and stranger things have been known to happe than having things take a turn for the better. I donāt know of any Russian dramas that have happy endings, but some of the fairy tales do, (my favorites), and, Maria, you never know.....itās the few times that unhappiness turns into happiness that keeps folk going...so, whether or not this turns out in your favor, take care of yourself so, in case it does, youāll be happily surprised and can get on with your life in a positive way. - Annabelle