Q - Dear Annabelle, I teased my best friend about a guy she can't stand while the guy was in the same room. I did ask her for forgiveness, but she said she's mad at me. Is there anything I can do. Should I write her a note? A - Dear Tam, Yes, a note that acknowledges that you were completely out of line and are embarrassed about your unfeeling behavior. There are three elements to Îforgivenessâ. One, recognition that you have displayed a certain behavior. Two, regret, acknowledging that you have behaved badly, and, third, reparation, or Îmaking goodâ to the person whom you have hurt. At 18, your girlfriend may not forgive you. Close friends, especially girlfriends have a grievous power to pain each other and sometimes the wound is so severe that the injured party just walks away from the relationship. Do be careful here...girlfriends, if youâre careful, will far outlast most of you male relationships in life. they are definitely worth cherishing. You might want to ask yourself what it was that triggered, in you, not only the urge to behave in such a way, but how it is that you would actually carry out such an urge. What was the lack of boundary that was so tempting that you now find yourself in this position? - Annabelle