Q - Dear Annabelle, I'm so glad i found your site. I never thought I'd find something like this EVER! I am having some problems I actually have a couple of questions: 1. I want to French my boyfriend, but how? and when? I have NO experience on French kissing at all. I've kissed him on the lips a lot, but no tongue. 2. How do I get him to do more stuff to me, like picking me up at my locker for classes? Or kissing me after classes? Or walking me to classes? I sure hope you can help me. A - Dear Jennifer, So you want to learn how to French kiss? Would you also like the formulae for a small nuclear device? Or how to raise a baby from infancy to healthy adulthood? (These three things are not unrelated, you know.) Let me share with you some information about teenage boys.......they are sexually wired so that they think about sex about 35 million seconds of every year. (Would you care to guess how many seconds are in a year?) Now, do they just LOVE the Īgirls who willā? You BET they do! However,( and, no, I have never thought this was fair), they get sexually involved with the Ībadā girls, yet they want to marry the Īgoodā girls. The Īgoodā girls are ones who value themselves highly enough not to be sexually friendly as adolescents. Iām not sure what kind of wives they make, but Iām not the one who set the Rules of the Universe and Iām just reporting back to you from having seen some serious battle casualties in years gone by. Jennifer, one of the things that children learn as they mature is to postpone gratification. What that means is to NOT succumb to current temptation and waiting until later which then provides a greater reward. That sort of thing takes self control...and pays dividends, (like keeping YOU in control of your life). If you start French kissing guys, you are going to get into situations that will race both your engine and theirs and you will find yourself in what is euphemistically know as a Īsexually compromisingā position. I wonāt go into a long lecture here, other than to say, donāt do this...itās not in your best interests, and certainly not in the best interest of an innocent baby....and, French kissing leads to things that lead to creating babies. Now, as to your second question. Smiling at a young man and admiring his sense of humor, along with bringing occasional treats of cookies that youāve made, is one way of pleasing the local male teenage wildlife......and, donāt forget for a minute that teenage boys will take any treat offered. This is a dangerous game you are wanting to play. The next time you sit down to study, get out your biology book and take a look at sex and reproduction.......thatās the Īmatch to the fuseā that French kissing will start you on the path to lighting....and itās a bomb, once exploded, that will forever change the focus of your life.....whether you want it to or not. NOW is the time to make decisions about your future......not when youāve missed your period. - Annabelle