Q - Dear Annabelle, I am a 19 year old college sophomore. I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and we have been living together for one. The other day my boyfriend told me that he was going to transfer to another university. He said I could come with him if I wanted to but it was my decision. His plan when he gets there, is to live with 3 guy friends he has known since grammar school. I would have to live in the dorms. My question is, should I go with him? I don't want to turn into a Friday night girlfriend and he has a history of ditching me for his friends on occasion. We talked about this and he swears it will be different and he will still spend time with me. Should I be concerned? A - Dear Lisa, No, you shouldnāt Ībe concernedā, what you should do,......(are you ready for this?).......is, at 19, to grow up. And, by that, I mean, let him go and turn your attention to yourself. Believe it or not, he needs to go away and grow up too. Youāve been using him as the living equivalent of the stuffed animals on your bed, and now itās time for you to get on with the business of being an adolescent and young adult...and that means for you to learn to live independently and to develop your self. Donāt live with someone to whom you are not married...I wonāt go into the reasons here, just donāt do it. (The reasons range from immorality....yes, that DOES count.....to a really statistically bad idea). Now, thank him kindly for his time and all you have learned from him, wish him well, and ....get on with YOUR life. (Yes,l I know, Īitās easy for ME to sayā, from my vantage point...but itās valid, nonetheless.) - Annabelle