Q - Dear Annabelle, My life is hell right now. My friends are all having problems and I am usually the middle man who (tries) to fix everything. I enjoy doing that. But, all of my friends are getting .... well I donāt know how to describe it. But here is whatās happening. Tanya is pissing me off. She has been having mood swings since she broke with her boyfriend on Thursday. Today she blew up at me during lunch and told me stay away from her. Then she kept approaching me, like she wanted to talk, and then she would stalk off. Then she called me today and gave the phone to her sister and ran off somewhere. And now she is fighting with her parents, and they took away her car and they wonāt let her do anything anymore. We had a little thing going on around August last year, and I still love her, but not like I did. My best friend, John, has a girlfriend and is screwing around with another girl, who happens to be another one of my best friends, Abby. She calls me every night telling me that she is pissed at him but she still loves him. I really want to help them both, but I donāt know how. John also flirts with other girls profusely at school and completely ignores Abby. Lastly, Iām having my own problems. Iām infatuated with a cheerleader named Natalie, who happens to be 18. Everyone thinks Iām the Īnice guyā, but I donāt know how to show her that. I donāt know how to approach her either. Sheāll talk to me when she isnāt around her friends and she gave me her phone number. Then she acts like I donāt exist when they come around. However, I want to get to know her better, maybe work my way into her clique, but how do I show her that I am actually a nice guy and worth her time. What do I talk about once I get some of her time? Should I even be chasing someone who is 3 years older than me? A - Dear Drew, Well, thereās good news and thereās bad news. Now both the Īgood and badā news are the same.....youāre 15 and you, and everyone around you, are so changeable thatās itās a wonder that you can keep any of this straight. There'sā no way you can make things the way they Īshouldā be, because you can maneuver and control only your own life and behavior. Now, it appears that you have a gift. If everyone really IS coming to you and expecting you to Īfixā things, then take note of that situation...it may be guiding to a career at some point. The older girl? Well, you never know....do you? Now, as I said, between now and about 25+ everyone is going to be changing and trying on new and different personnas. Just try not to get caught in the crossfire...and try not to train others to rely on you for their solutions. You sound like a very organized young man...just keep a sense of humor about this entire process and things will....eventually.......improve. - Annabelle