Q - Dear Annabelle, I am confused about her feelings, she gave me her phone, I call her two times and she said that she don't have time, in the third call I told her to get out that day but she get furious and said things that she has a boyfriend friend and don't see him frequently, was social phobic, wanna see me only in her office and was interested in a job meeting only. The problem is that she always answer to my invitations to see us for job meeting like flirting and with a M.Monroe voice encouraging me to call her next week. I was in therapy for 2 weeks and the doctor told me better leave her because she is hysteric. what can I do? she freeze me now for 2 weeks (next time when I should call her), I'm interested in her but I have problems speaking by phone (not in person), what can I do, when I should insist again, can you help me? A - Dear Eric, Well, Gallic manners may be different than American manners but the behavior certainly translates! Whether or not sheās an hysteric isnāt relevant. What IS relevant is that SHE is not responding in a positive fashion to YOU. Now, itās very nearly spring and you live in France. Iāll just bet there are other young ladies who would be more receptive to your attentions. As a young Frenchman, to be wise in the ways of women is a good thing....youāll do fine, just not with THIS one. There are ever so many others. Enjoy! - Annabelle Q - Dear Annabelle, (Annabelle's answers are after the '**'.) I'm very happy because you answer my E-mail, it was wise and honest advice, but due to UNDERSTANDING PROBLEMS your answer was WRONG. 1- I'm NOT FRENCH (my heritage yes) **Hmmmmm, guess I was confused when, for 'location', you put France 2- We (she too) born and live in the capitol city of a South America country (ARGENTINA) 3- YES, she is not positive to me, but not negative either, she is in the middle. 4- Annabelle, when you wanna end with somebody don't you say I DON'T WANNA SEE/HEAR YOU ANYMORE **Sometimes people, instead of saying 'no', give the answers that she's been giving you..or no answer at all...just the 'no' behavior 5- Have you ever hear about FEIN-SCHNEIDER book THE RULES OF THE GAME, I think she is following it **No, but I'll take a look at it...what happens if YOU follow it too? 6- We are totally estrange to each other and I think I pushed her too much and soon **Could be 7- She has strong personality, if she doesn't want to do something she clearly says NOOOO, like when she rejected my invitation to get out. I sent to you my first E-mail on Feb. 18, the answer came on March 4. **Sometimes the mail backlog runs close to three months By now I call her 2 more times, she said that she doesn't have time to talk, but was less hard the last time, I'm thinking about ask her to forgive me for my behavior (I didn't hear heard her, I was very inconsiderate, selfish, I raised my voice through the phone), what do you think? **The 'rule of thumb' is....the first one to raise their voice, .....loses One last thing I wanna say is don't you ever hear about that couples happy married for long years and he has to run after her for long time just only for get the first date (I mean months)? **Of course...and, if that's your idea of a good time, who am I to say any different?