Q - Dear Annabelle, Iāll write u my problem ..actually i knew a guy by the internet,his name is Mazen ,he is 23 years old now. I knew him from 2 years and we didnāt meet before. We just met from 2 weeks in my country he lives in Lebanon. He is half Lebanese,half Egyptian. He stayed here for a week and we have met almost all the days of this week, almost everyday for 2 or 1 hour, but we were just alone twice in these meetings, the other times with his cousin and their friends. The first time he bought me flowers, (but before we see each other), ( hey during the 2 years we didnāt chat a lot, but we were chatting and sending email, but not as close friends just as friends). Well to return to my subject, I liked the flowers a lot and we have met the day after etc. He told me about his ex love and how she betrayed him. He knew her from 2 years and loved her another 2 years till he went for 7 months in the U.S. and she knew another man. Thatās why he came to Egypt, to change the air. I told him, itās ok, Mazen, life is going and I tried to help him. (p.s: we didn't kiss or touch at all). Anyway, in the day before he leaves, we saw each other in the morning and, in the evening, I had to see another guy so I couldn't see him. He called me at 11:50 pm asking me to see him just for 5 minutes before he goes, I was really happy, so I went. I found him with his cousin came and he bought me a gift cause he wont be here in my birthday, which in 30 January, so he bought it now. Well when I turned home I found it a sweet teddy bear and a card saying that Iām a real friend and Iām wonderful person, Iām very special and the next day he called me from the airport before he goes...and he turned to his country. We just chatted from 3 times and he called me once from Lebanon and he doesnāt tell me like I miss you or something. I told him to turn to his ex girlfriend he completely refuse the idea. He tells me who betray once betray forever! But at the same time he tells me he misses her but he put x on her. She is in the black list for him. He told me too that the woman he will love next will be only his wife no one else..so what do u think, Annabelle, I like him! and in Egypt we say who is far from eyes, far from heart! and I don't know what to do. Well I asked a friend before about this problem. He told me that he was trying to forget his ex in me. Is that right, Annabelle? and how I let him feel my presence! He told me too that he has lot of girlfriends but just as a friend and what I am for him, just a friend,right? well I know that my problem is not really big , there is other problems who r much worse but I need year advice. Annabelle. Well, Iām curious about u too, Annabelle, as a person, and I like your job too .. hope to know more about you too and thanx for letting me saying my problem thank you and hope to hear from u soon , hey may I write u another problem? After few days itās my friend's problem and itās really much much much worse than mine well, I hope to hear from u soon, Annabelle. A - Dear Yasmina, Good heavens, no wonder youāre confused! Well, the best way to judge anyone's Īintentionsā...is by their A-C-T-I-O-N-S. Thatās the only way we can judge anyone, really, and, though I know your young and girlish fantasies would have this be just the way youād like them to be, sometimes the fantasies will have to do for awhile. It could be that what your other friend said about Mazen is true, I have no way of knowing that, nor do you. It could even be that the friend who told you this would be interested in YOU and more than a friend. I know that itās often more fun, and seems more glamorous, to have an elusive male that to have a real live one right where you CAN actually have a relationship, and you might want to consider that small bit of information when next you find yourself yearning for your absent swain. Now, it just COULD be that Mazen will, in fact return and ask you to marry him. Thatās always possible too. However, in our country we have a saying that somewhat matches yours....āout of sight, out of mindā. There is, however, a balancing saying, Īabsence makes the heart grow fonderā. So, which of these apply with you and Mazen? Ideally it would be the same saying for each of you..that way, no matter how it turns out, everything will, likely be alright. Now, about your friend who also has a problem. I neglected to tell you that just recently the mail backup has been almost two months! Right now it;s just three weeks..so you see, sometimes itās very difficult to get a timely answer. I do hope this has been some small help to you. - Annabelle