Q - Dear Annabelle, I am a virgin and don't want sex until I'm married. My boyfriend is older and more experienced. I keep saying no but we keep getting closer and closer to having sex. If he really respects me will he take no for an answer? I continuously say no but he says we should get past that. A - Dear Angie, What your boyfriend means when he says, Īwe should get past that,ā is that HE wants to Īget past thatā,.........and that YOU are about to become his NEXT Īexperienceā. Oh, heāll, (probably), say Īall the right thingsā to soothe your fears and have you feeling good -- for the moment -- but heāll go on to other girls, using the same old line that has been around since my motherās days....and, probably, her motherās. Interestingly enough, one of the reasons these Īlinesā are around for so long is that they work. Young women are so gullible and want to Īmake niceā....and so, give in. You sound like a young woman who knows whatās best for you.......does a guy who wants whatās best for HIM fit into your plans? Youāre on the right track and yet you feel your resolve weakening. He has just told you that your values are of no interest to him....all HE wants is your knees around his back..........you know perfectly well what kind of guy youāve got here and you probably also know that youāll think a great deal less of yourself if you let yourself down. There are lots of wonderful guys out there who will respect your integrity and who donāt want a shopworn female for a wife. Youāre doing what you believe is right for you...........and youāre right. Donāt worry about being alone and without a boyfriend.....turn your attention back to yourself and to your studies. Life is long and this predator...(thatās what he is)....is just a bump on a very long highway. It is YOU that you must face in the mirror every morning. And, by the way, congratulations on your integrity. - Annabelle