Q - Dear Annabelle, I'm a sophomore at my high school and I need help. There's this girl I really like. She's a girl to die for (at least I think) -- decent looks, smart, funny, etc., etc.....I won't bore you with all the details. Anyway, she's in a couple of my classes. I usually make the effort to talk to her, but sometimes she makes a conversation with me. She's nice to me doesn't have an aversion to me. She'll talk to me, but I'm not first on her list -- she likes to talk to her friends better. My question is, for you: How can I get her to notice me more? How can I get her to see that I like her a lot? Is there a way to get her to really want me? I'll be waiting for your reply..... A - Dear Chris, At 15, young people can be very changeable so the very best thing YOU can do is just, (and I know this sounds corny), Ībe your best selfā. What that means is that you work to develop your character, integrity, sense of humor, smile, posture and your general Īpublicā presentation. That may sound like a pretty big order, but the only one, of all the people around you, who is going to be with you throughout your entire life is YOU..so, however this, relatively, short term interest turns out, the one you REALLY want to devote your time to is yourself. Young ladies are attracted to fellows who seem to have Īthe secretā......that Īsecretā being that they are self assured. Self assurance come, not from being phony and false, but from attending to the business at hand, and Īthe business at handā is positioning yourself in the world to earn a good income and make a positive difference. Even at 15, young ladies can sense which of the young men has Īthe most promiseā, in terms of future accomplishments and, since females tend to prefer males who can protect them and provide for any offspring, the females tend to be attracted by guys who give off good vibes in terms of Īsuccessā signals. Those are interpreted as being a fellow who has, not only good posture and a good, strong walk, but also a direct gaze in conversation, a warm smile, good conversational abilities, a good sense of humor, and the ability to listen as well as to talk. Now, as to this girl particularly, just ask her to help you with some school activity..a dance, meeting, etc, or to a function at your church or synagogue. If you have some wonderful plan for your future and you can interest her in fantasizing about your plans with you, she will, most likely begin to see you as a potential mate...young women really like young men who are passionate about their own futures and who have a plan. Have fun! - Annabelle