Q - Dear Annabelle, I was in love with a British guy. We both were in love, but he lives in England and that makes all much difficult. Lately, he«s not putting so much attention in me: he doesn't«t write so often, he doesn't«t make phone calls to Peru, and now I don«t know if I love him. I mean I Īloveā him, but I know a guy here at University that I like very much I know he likes me too. But what if the love thing with this guy is only flirt? . And if I lose both? Help me Annabelle, x. A - Dear Natalia, Slow down, Nat.........youāre only 17 and I KNOW that feels all Īgrown upā....the truth is, you have many years of maturing to do. Your BIG challenge now is, not only to learn how to Ībeā with other people, both guys AND girls, but also to insure that you attend to your studies and acquire a first class education for yourself. Youāre a piece in a very large puzzle....and you have a place in the world. Itās just that, right now, you have your priorities slightly askew. Itās entirely appropriate for you to find LOTS of fellows interesting....āloveā is just a word to you right now......(and probably a few pretty wonderful feelings). However, when youāre about 10 years older youāll develop a new understanding of what Īloveā really is. Enjoy your life and attend to what is, really, in your best interest. I understand that you Īdonāt want to be aloneā,......however, you need to be aware that, in almost every context, we are ALL Īaloneā. The trick to this whole process is to understand that, in becoming a Īwholeā person we are then suitable mates for other, Īwholeā people. The process towards becoming whole is really quite wonderful and takes many years. Youāll do fine if you slow down and realize that development is on a continuum........relax, attend to what is age appropriate and youāll have a happy surprise. - Annabelle