Q - Dear Annabelle, I have been going out with a girl for about a month and a half. She is 17, I am 16. Whenever she asks me "What do you want to do?" or "Where do you want to go", I go blank. I donāt have any ideas. Really I just want to be with her. I donāt care what we do. I answer with, " I don't know", or I ask her what does she want to do, and she gets mad at me. I love her, but I'm shy. I was wondering if you had any advice? A - Dear W, Yes. Iām here to tell you that young ladies LIKE to be told what the activities during the time spent together will include. I understand your uncomfortable feelings.......itās not at all uncommon in young gentlemen your age to feel as you do. Iām sending to you the ĪH.E.L.P.ā formula and a couple other ideas. **H.E.L.P** ĪHā Ask her about her hobbies, what she does for fun, you know, stuff like that. ĪEā Ask her about her education...school......what classes she likes/doesnāt like,... that sort of thing. Help her with a difficult class or ask her to help YOU! (Strangely enough, you can make friends by asking someone to help you with something). ĪLā Ask her about her Īlifestyleā..........what she likes to do when she just Īhangs outā with friends and stuff. Does she go to church or synagogue? ĪPā Ask her about her plans for the future, and such. What would she like to do when she grows up, does she have a long list or a short list of things-to-do in life? (By the way, the most desirable people have a real ENTHUSIASM for life.......and young MEN who are excited about all the wonderful things theyāre going to do in the world are....get this.......REALLY desirable to young women ;) Now, just for Īregularā stuff...think what ACTIVITY you might enjoy sharing with your various lady friends......going out for a film or ice cream or to a park to participate in or observe an activity. Young ladies, in general like to feel Īprotectedā and that the guy is Īin chargeā. Youāre in a Īpracticingā stage in relationships so, understand that some things will work and others wonāt work as well. The trick is to not take things too, too seriously and to maintain a sense of humor. The more fun you can have, and the more easily you can laugh at yourself, the happier youāll be in the long run. Much good luck to you....enjoy! - Annabelle