Q - Dear Annabelle, My boyfriend and I have been together for 18 months, I have no doubt that he loves me, (he is older than me, he's 20), and some weeks ago, I didn't have any doubt either, but yesterday I went to meet some friends, and there was a really good friend I had 4 years ago, we talked for a long time, and I found myself very very happy about it, I felt like everything I felt about him, grew 100 times, he seemed more than happy to see me, but now the thing is that I just can't stop thinking about him, wanting to be with him, am I betraying my boyfriend? Also I have a friend who is "in love with him" or at least really likes him, and I've always known that, and I always wanted to see them together, but now that I think I have feelings for this guy, I don't know what to do. Please would you help me? A - Dear Liliana, Please forgive the tardiness of the response..........the volume of mail has gotten pretty amazing. This may have resolved itself by now, however, if it hasnāt, keep in mind that, at 18, your feelings are still relatively changeable vis a vis relationships. The 20 year old isnāt THAT much older so thatās, (almost), not relevant. That you ran into an old friend from when you were 14, IS relevant. Friendships formed early tend to blossom into more if people renew their acquaintance. Thatās often because you had a chance to be FRIENDS before you became romantically interested. (You might keep that in mind, by the way, when youāre looking for someone to marry in your mid-20ās.) In late adolescence and early young adulthood, and often because of faulty role modeling from programs watched on TV, young people tend to put emphasis on feelings and things that arenāt the least bit relevant to real life relationships. You DID ask Īam I betraying my boyfriendā?.........and Iām glad you have the perspective to realize that that sort of thing is possible. I donāt know what sort of agreement the two of you have -- or had -- but if youāve agreed to a mutual exclusivity then, yes, you are about to, or have, Ībetrayedā him. Feelings that young men have at this age can be very tender and very strong.....this is the age where they tend to write wonderful poetry, so, whatever you do, please do it with as much integrity and candor as possible. Good luck to you......Iām glad to hear that youāre a young lady of some sensibility. - Annabelle