Q - Dear Annabelle, I am in a Long Distance relationship and I really love the guy But, my friendās boyfriend's brother wants to go out with me, I really love both of them but I don't know what to do, they're both so sweet to me. A - Dear Cassi, The Īgood newā here is that youāre 13 and, at 13, youāre too young (sorry) to get married or enter into a committed relationship.......or, actually, to single date. The opportunity to be friends with as many people as you can is the best approach. These years between now and 25 are for learning about as many different kinds of people as you are able. I know that youāve, (probably), had your endocrine system kick in with all those really weird and funny Īfeelingsā about guys...just remember that a Īfeelingā is just that.......a feeling....and doesnāt have to be acted upon. The more you develop yourself into a young lady who is interested in....and interesting to.........a large number of young men, as well as young women, the more likely you are to emerge at a more mature stage with the skills and knowledge necessary to select your lifeās mate. Since you wonāt be making that selection till youāre about 25+ you can see that you just now entering into the beginning stages of practicing good interpersonal skills.....and Īpracticingā is what these adolescent years are all about Now I know this isnāt the all-giggly answer youād hoped for, itās just the answer that is Īrealā in the context of your question. What you are experiencing as Īloveā is, in fact a form of that emotion.....and is quite wonderful. Just donāt confuse it with mature love or think that having the feeling precludes you from needing to get excellent grades in school or for searching for and developing a passion in life...........a passion that will propel you safely into your 20ās and beyond......intellectually and career wise, and not a Īpassionā for guys, which will actually delay or actually diminish your developmental skills. I know I sound like a really naggy parent here, and that youāve probably heard this before. The reason you hear the Īgrownupā folk say this stuff is that weāve gone ever so much further down the path on which you now find yourself. You wonāt be a duplicate of anyone who has gone before you on that path, however, itās helpful for YOU to know where the opportunities, and pitfalls, are........the opportunities are in your education and the kind of person YOU choose to develop yourself into.....the pitfalls are the untimely distractions of thinking that the Īloveā you feel now is something that supersedes the need for that good education. Take your time........you have a long life ahead of you and, if you plan your course well, there will be time fore everything with everything in itās time. - Annabelle