Q - Dear Annabelle, I am in love with my best friend and I don't know what to do about it. I care about her a lot but I donāt know how she feels about me. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I don't want to lose her because she means so much to me. Should I tell her or wait and see what happens? A - Dear Rolando, Oh boy, I hate these questions.......(because this could go either way). Look, youāve fallen in love with your best friend, just about the best of all possible worlds, AND you donāt know if sheād welcome the change in the relationship. Youād probably rather eat nails than have her scorn your offer of love and yet, if you tell her and sheās not amenable to the situation, you could lose her. Wow. The really Īmatureā, (sometimes I just hate that word), thing to do is sit with her some quiet afternoon, or evening, and just tell her what has happened. You might want to preface it with the acknowledgement that youād prefer NOT to lose the friendship if she doesnāt feel the same way about you, but that the feeling has gotten so strong that you wanted her, (and not anyone else), to know. THAT sort of approach will, most likely, evoke a thoughtful answer in her.....perhaps even the answer you hope for! : ) If she indicates that the feeling ISNāT reciprocated, then it is up to you to not make her feel uncomfortable and to just keep your feelings to yourself. (Difficult but necessary). Growing up is hard...and feelings at this age are tender. Iāll keep my fingers crossed for you. - Annabelle