Q - Dear Annabelle, I don't know when I will ever be able to have sex. When I do find someone who will be able to wait until I'm ready? How do I feel good about letting him see my naked body? What if he leaves me? A - Dear Heather, All very good questions....the Īnaked bodyā one, especially. For what itās worth, the Ībest time to have sexā is when you and your mate are totally devoted to each other in a marital relationship. Sex is a bonding experience for females, whereas, for some guys, itās just an eveningās entertainment. That some females have learned to approach sexual encounters in this way has, on occasion, proven problematic, .....mainly because it trivializes what can be, under the Īrightā circumstances, one of the most amazingly personally exhilarating experiences you will ever have. Itās not something that you want to share with Ījust anyoneā, although youāll meet lots of fellows who will encourage you to experience it with them. These are not guys with your best interests at heart....(only THEIR best interests.) You do NOT let anyone talk you into the experience ....THAT you will most definitely regret. Sex can be trivial and simple, or a complex emotional experience, depending on the person and the timing. Actually waiting until you are married, having made that commitment to each other, will provide one of the most thrilling, and non replicatable experiences you will ever have. Heather, ANY one can have Īsexā. Itās just a biological function, like eating, or going to the bathroom. Itās a bodily function that can provide pleasure or relief. It can be so trivialized that you can....and many do, have it with anyone at any time. Some people have had so much sex that itās really Īno big dealā......and THAT, Heather, is a great loss. With the Īrightā person, it is an experience that, having waited, you will always treasure. Now, as to your Ībody imageā situation. The Īrightā person will treasure ALL of you, your heart, soul AND your body. At eighteen, you may not realize that very few people are even near, much less in, the Īperfect category. Having Īsexā isnāt about how you look, itās an elaborate form of communication between two people who, I would hope, love each other very much. (If you doubt me watch the very erotic love scene between the Duke and his wife in ĪDune). You may think the other young women are out there having all the fun. Not true. Youāll find your own way in your own time. Development has a way of taking place slowly.....youāll get there, donāt rush. Besides, something you have the good sense to wait for is often all the sweeter for the waiting. - Annabelle