Q - Dear Annabelle, Why is that men think it is ok not to call in a relationship? I am in college right now, trying to hold together a long distance relationship with a guy who doesn't feel it is necessary to call back on time. In the beginning he was always on time, but now it seems that he is always ignoring me. I haven't done anything wrong. I don't know if he is cheating on me or what is going on. He is in the Coast Guard, when I call they tell me he is there, but then tell me that he says he will call me back when he is not busy. I love him very much and want this to work. I am not a pathetic loser either, just hurting from being taken advantage by another unthankful male. If you could give me any advice at all I would be grateful. Thanks. A - Dear Jessica, Bad news from Annabelle....youâre 18 and distance is tailor made for forming new relationships. By the time youâre through college you will have someone else in your life....thatâs just the way things work. Hot tip: Do not annoy guys with trying to reach them. If they want to call you, they will. One call, one letter or one email is fine....but donât persist. Guys, especially younger ones, prefer to be the Îhuntersâ..... You say you feel your are Îhurting from being taken advantage by another unthankful maleâ. Uh, youâve had this happen before? Since, as you say, youâre Înot a pathetic loserâ, maybe a different viewpoint would be in order. Guys are young right now, and, if someone shows lack of social abilities, this is not a good sign. Youâre not on this planet to do what a guyâs parents should have done. So, instead of excoriating some guy for not living up, not only to good social graces, but to your standards, cut him loose and go find a better quality guy. Now, get back to your schoolwork....thatâs whatâs REALLY important these few years. (Honest!) - Annabelle