Q - Dear Annabelle, I really like this guy in college, we've been friends for 2 months, i actually met him at an AD Agency, while working there as a trainee, he joined the same agency & happened to be in the second year in the same college i was gonna join! He has a friend who drives, and since then he always takes me along with them wherever they go, he's always with me in college in between. classes & i get more attention than the rest of the gals he knows for over a year, he once mentioned that he wants a lifetime relationship once & for all as he will never hurt a girl, he flirts with other girls too, but he calls me up whenever possible, cares for me when I'm sad, has come over to my place twice!! I want to know how I can secure a relationship with him and find out if he truly likes me , I don't wanna get hurt, I know I love him a lot, every moment of the day he's on my mind!! PLEASE............ suggest a way for me to know his feelings for me are real or not, indirectly as soon as I can. He turns 20 next Jan, I'll be 19 next July A - Dear Moon, Well......take this one very slowly. What youāre feeling is not love, there actually is a name for it and that name is Īlimeranceā. Thatās a pretty name, isnāt it? Limerance is that rush of emotions we feel when Īsomethingā in us picks up Īsomethingā in an other. It is such fun.....and can cause SUCH mischief! The best way to negotiate the limerant state is to, as much as possible, keep your head about you. Now, he sounds like a very nice guy and you sound like a very nice girl. In any relationship between two people, the best way to keep it going, (almost always), is for you to continue doing what attracted the person to you in the first place. Thereās Īsomethingā about you that he just........likes. Really, all you need to do is to be nice, kind, and cheerful..........(pleasant is always good too). If heās almost 20, then heās actually beginning to think about marrying, at some few years into the future and if YOU would like to be the Īselecteeā for the next few years then, once youāve gotten the Īsignalā from him that YOU may be Īthe oneā........well, thatās where just continuing to be the lovely sweet self he was first attracted to comes in. Smile a lot, be very interested in what he does and who he is. This is actually much easier than it sounds. Good luck, donāt be nervous.....and remember to enjoy the process! - Annabelle