Q - Dear Annabelle, Well, I'm in a great relationship with this girl. The only problem is that she is in love with two other guys (don't get me wrong she loves me, I know that). But she can't seem to make up her mind about which one she wants more. Normally I would get out of the relationship, but I love her. I'm wondering if I should break up with her or not. I've been with her for over a year now, and I don't know if I can live without her. A - Matt, Define Îgreat relationshipâ. How Îgreatâ can it be if sheâs Îin love with two other guysâ and canât make up her mind? Ahhhhh, young love. The Îgood newsâ and the Îbad newsâ is the same.........youâre 17. At this age feelings: __change pretty rapidly, __are uncertain at best, __are terribly intense __all of the above Of course you can live without her. As hard as this is....you WILL get through it in one piece. Does it hurt? You bet it does. Hey, you could always take notes and use this as a basis for a novel or a short story or a film or a........get the idea? This kind of teenage angst is that which many of the best plots are made.....that doesnât lessen the pain, nor does the knowledge that everyone has to make this journey. Your goal, (believe it or not), it to notice how you and everyone else Îisâ in the world and to get a terrific education so so can develop a fabulous career and, at your high school reunion, be so happy with your choices in life that anyone who has ever known you will be happy to count you among their friends. That may sound dull and beside the point right now, but raise your eyes from the immediate pain to the greater goal. That will help a lot. Besides, girls LOVE guys with a future. (Remember, girls like guys who can bring back the BIG fish to feed the family). - Annabelle