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Q - Dear Annabelle,
I love my boyfriend but he has told me that it is either him or my son I picked my son and told him to hit the road. Why do I feel so empty and I miss him so much! What is wrong with me? This should be easy!
A - Dear Amy,
Nothing is wrong with you, you made absolutely the RIGHT choice!! What kind of bum would have you neglect your child? That you have a son, and are not now married, can be difficult, but at least your child has a mom. The sex and cuddling that you crave is a yearning that is most understandable...........something that as a mom, with a single momās responsibilities may need be put on hold, perhaps for quite a while to come. You donāt want YOUR boy to grow up and be a jerk!
Iām happy that you have the maturity to know that the other choice would, not only have weakened you as a person, but have devasted your youngster as well. Itās hard enough as it is for him not to have a dad, but to have a guy around who didnāt want him can be, as you may know, downright dangerous.
Are there Parents Without Partners groups where you live? Perhaps some church groups that might provide some grownup interaction? I know it's hard going through what youāre going through, but when children are brought into our lives, (and remember, it is WE who do that, itās not a Īmagicalā process), then our hopes and dreams have to be realigned while we nurture and protect the youngsters. Otherwise, the world is going to be peopled by grownups who have never learned to love and nurture the next generation.
- Annabelle
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