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Q - Dear Annabelle,
When, if ever, is it o.k. to pursue what secrets your family holds?
My mother-in-law has already let us know that she does indeed hold a
secret(about
my husband's paternity)and has hinted many times that it is someone
famous. She is refusing to say anything until SHE is ready, & that it is
HER secret, & for us to not ask anymore questions.
My husband & I just can't get over how cruel this is. We feel if
any of her hints are true, that he has a right to know, & that she does
not have any right to withhold this information. My husband will be 40
next year, & we think the SECRET has gone on long enough! thank-you
A - Dear Diane,
Remember the sing-song-y ćIāvvvvvve got a secret, and YOU caaaaanāt
have it!ä?
Well, thatās just what youāve got going here. Now, that it may concern
something of real interest to you and your husband, exacerbates the
situation. Your mother-in-law is a tease and a titillator, but then,
you already knew that, didnāt you?
Let it go.........and, no, I donāt CARE how much it irritates you.
Let it GO! (Besides, thatās the best way,.........if thereās ANY way at
all,......... to dislodge the Īsecretā). You just say, ćOh well, youāll
tell us when youāre good and ready, meanwhile, letās just DROP it,
o.k.?ä And then, for goodness sakes, BITE YOUR TONGUES!!!
You see, in life, when you encounter a Īgame playerā and YOU donāt
want to play, then you just donāt engage with them Itās rather like
when someone wants to have an argument, and you donāt want to. You
just...............donāt.
- Annabelle
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