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Q - Dear Annabelle,
Is it possibly to fall in love with someone through phone calls, emails, chats and pictures without the physical contact? Not the get married stage of love, but the stage that opens the heart and lays bare the soul in a very vulnerable way.
A - Dear Wondering,
Absolutely. It is not only possible, but also very prevalent.
Remember, 'falling in love' is generally a self engendered feeling.
It's a feeling almost everyone likes, (and longs for). -- we long to be
'known'.
I'm going to, possibly, spoil your fun here by telling you that we ALL
attempt to recreate the pre-birth/neonate experience of total warm,
surrounding, caring -- the 'feeling' of being totally loved, (known).
Where there's an 'empty place' in our lives, we -- those of us who are,
uh, 'healthy' -- will find what we think will make that place 'full'.
(It's my personal belief that this is where chocolate comes in).
Bonding over the net can be part of what is called 'the grass is
greener' syndrome or, 'it's just over the (next) hill'. As long as it
never HAS to take its place in the 'real world', the interaction can go
on indefinitely. Without the intrusion of the commonplace, we can
endlessly spin the tale to fit our needs -- and, remember -- no matter
what has EVER happened to ANYONE else, 'our' case is always 'different'.
Someone 'at a distance' can be seen as possessing those features that we
(unconsciously), 'need' in an 'other'. We will even ignore small,
subtle clues from reality that don't support our newly found hopes and
dreams. This is not to say that these kinds of things never work out
once they come into the 'real' world.......of course they do. It is
just because they DO occasionally work out that keeps all of us
enchanted with the possibility of OUR situation working out also.
- Annabelle
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