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Q - Dear Annabelle,
Is it really bad to have an affair with a married man? If he
weren't doing it with me, it would be someone else, or am I just fooling
myself?
A - Dear Michelle,
Sigh..............yes, Michelle, itās Ībad to have an affair with a
married man.ā Itās bad for him, (morally wrong), bad for his family
structure, and bad for you. Does what youāre doing Īfeelā good?
Almost certainly!........āforbidden fruitā as the saying goes, is
somehow perceived as sweeter, but, look at your rationale. ćIf he
werenāt doing it with me, heād be doing it with someone elseä. Gosh,
THAT sounds like a good reason for a behavior, doesnāt it?
Youāre with someone who his breaking his marital vows.......and
youāre helping him do it. This is a person of low values who uses
people for his own pleasure. YOU are volunteering to participate in an
activity that is basically destructive. Does it Īfeel goodā? Well, one
one level it does. Hey, sex is DESIGNED to Īfeel goodā..........or weād
have run out of people a long time ago.
Letās take the Īlong viewā here. Iāll use an essentially silly
parallel, but an apt one. Now, if youāre a termite happily gnawing away
at the foundation of a house, and youāre the only termite, well, maybe
itās not a big deal. However, lots of termites bring the house down.
Well, youāre not the ONLY sign that this fellow is weak......other
Ītermitesā, in other forms perhaps, have been there before you. Not
only he he cheating his wife and marriage, heās cheating himself of good
character.
Each of us is a piece of a puzzle in a much larger picture and,
every time each of us is doing less than our best, the over all group
suffers. The ćHey, everyoneās doing itä, mentality has, in the
aggregate, led to a hastening downward spiral in society in general.
Is it harder to uphold a moral standard? You bet it is!!
Will YOU, personally, benefit by upholding, (not to mention
HAVING), Īmoral standardsā? YES YOU WILL. You may miss some Īfunā,
(which will actually gnaw away at YOUR inner self), in the short run,
but, in the long run, you will be stronger and.......now, hereās the
oddly interesting part, you will not have placed into motion the
balancing karma that will most surely come your way.
Michelle, in life there is a balance........what we do, who we are
as people, in our time on this earth, is held up to us as a
mirror..............we really DO *become our actions*. For a moment,
put aside the pleasure of the sex. Stand in front of the mirror and
really SEE yourself. Do you see someone of whom you can be proud, or
someone who is a cheat, -- because if YOU donāt participate in his
acting immorally, someone ELSE will? Do you know whom you are
cheating? Michelle........itās YOU!
Michelle, ask yourself these questions: If this is your ONLY time
on this earth, just what is it that YOU, Michelle, are doing to make
this world a better place in which to live? Just what IS YOUR purpose?
Just WHO IS ĪMichelleā?....when you have passed from this earth, will
you have made a positive difference? Being human is not an excuse,
Michelle, it is a priviledge.
- Annabelle
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