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Q - Dear Annabelle,
My wife and I have been married less than four months and it's like pulling teeth to get
her to have sex with me. I don't know what the problem is, she's always says she's too tired or something. She has a two year old from a previous relationship and is always talking about how she want's to have a baby. I've tried to convince her that we should wait until she's done with school. She's a nursing student that will be done with school in a few months. It seems she only wants to have sex to produce a child. I believe that it can also be for fun. She rarely seemsinterested. What am I to do? Thanks.
A - Dear Gary,
A two year old from Îa previous relationshipâ? What does that mean? Was she married? (It matters.....)
Did you have a sexual relationship with her before you married? What was it like then? Yes, at 31, and, after just four months of being married, this is indicative of........something. It could be that sheâs never had the experience of having an excellent lover. It could be that she thinks of Îsexâ as strictly intercourse. It could be that she had an Îunwantedâ baby in a relationship that wasnât marriage and she may need to have a baby within marriage to regain some self esteem. There are many, many variables here and not a lot of information. I recommend that the two of you go to a good marriage counselor to uncover some of your Îhiddenâ beliefs and expectations. Sex is SUPPOSED to be romping good fun......a marriage counselor can give you things to try that could work....for both of you and one thingâs for sure.....the homeworkâs fun!
- Annabelle
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