|
|
Q - Dear Annabelle,
My son-in-law is upset because he found out that his wife, (my daughter), was chatting
and exchanging e-mail addresses with other men. I know my daughter loves her husband, and I don't believe she would every cheat on him in "real-life" but, where do you draw the line as far as chatting to someone of the opposite sex and actually CHEATING on your spouse? My daughter is home alone a lot because of her and her husbandās different work schedules and she says she is "just lonely" and Īnot doing anything wrongā. Please give me your opinion on this matter so that I can, hopefully, help the situation. My son-in-law says he doesn't trust her now. Did she really do something THAT wrong, he says she violated her wedding vows to him.
A - Janet,
Well, I donāt know all of the dynamics here, but anything that takes emotional energy outside of the marriage can be problematic. That your daughter feels lonely might be a good signal for her husband to take a look at their relationship. It could be that there are, really , no grounds for this and that she simply needs to take responsibility for her own life and interests in a way that donāt threaten the marriage. (I mean, there are women with whom she can correspond, not men), or that she and her husband need to spend more time together. He cannot take responsibility for filling up her life...thatās her job. What she is doing IS very fraught with emotional danger and I do NOT recommend this kind of behavior...it can lead to irreparable mischief. He probably has frustrations and may occasionally feel Īlonelyā too. A few trips to a good couples counselor might be in order here. However, donāt underestimate the damage the internet can cause....these things can get out of hand pretty easily and are not necessarily benign. Iād be very careful here.....
- Annabelle
|
