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Q - Dear Annabelle,
I left the father of my two children over a year ago. I met another guy, an older guy, and we began to live together. Recently, we starting having problems. I've come to realize that I still love the father of my children and do not want to be in any other relationship. However, the father has a girlfriend who is pregnant now, and we are
talking about getting back together. He tells me that he still loves me and is trying to convince his girlfriend to have an abortion. Should I give up already with the father? I definitely am ending it with this older guy.
A - Dear Jennifer,
Well, in my never-to-be-humble-opinion your values are seriously skewed. Youāre 24, and you owe your children a good, loving, two-parent home....that means that you donāt give in to Īwhimletsā and go running off with other men.
That DOES mean that you and their father find a good marriage counselor and work out ways of communicating with each other that benefit, not only the two of you, but also the children. What kind of a role model do the two of you want to be for them?
Now, you have a very serious complication here. He had unprotected sex with yet another woman and created a new life? Thatās an entire responsibility right there..... and he wants her to kill the baby for convenience? What kind of a person have you picked to be your husband and father of your children? Either have the child adopted out to a loving two parent home or realize that you now have a permanent triangle while the infant is raised to 18. Yes, I am pro-choice....and that CHOICE takes place BEFORE conception. Killing an unborn child is still killing.
Jennifer, life has structure for a reason......this free-form coupling here and there, for whatever reason, produces a chaos that is in no oneās best interests.
ESPECIALLY the childrenās.
- Annabelle
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