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Q - Dear Annabelle,
I was wondering if it is really bad to get married to someone that you donāt love. You marry because of the kid.
A - Shanna,
Getting married for Īthe kidā mightn't be the worst idea if your goal is to provide a warm, secure and loving home. That you donāt feel passionate love for the person youāre marrying is less a problem than would be instability in the young personās life. Many people, over the years, have married for practical reasons and have fallen deeply in love over time. You see, Shanna, love, Īrealā love, is a result of the appreciation we develop for the wonderful qualities that our mate demonstrates.
Children need security in the form of a peaceful and consistent home life. If this is what you and your mate can provide, I vote for the marriage. Working together for a common purpose, in this case, to provide a loving, warm and secure home for your youngster will automatically bring the two of you emotionally closer together. You are to be congratulated for being a good and loving mother and for providing a good solid upbringing for your child. You may find that you fall deeply in love with your mate...it wouldnāt be the first time that this kind of thing would have happened!
- Annabelle
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