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Q - Dear Annabelle,
My son is 23 years old has flunked out of university after spending 3 years there. He now owes 30,000 dollars, and has left our home town to seek work in another city. He is very shy, and has not even tried to find work in his field of interest. Instead he is looking for labor jobs. After only a week, he quits and looks for another. I've tried to talk to him about his goals, and where he wants to be by next year, but I really don't think he knows.
I feel he tells me what he thinks I want to hear. I suspect alcohol & drugs were the reason for him not doing well in university. He has phoned twice in the past month to ask for a loan because he's in between jobs. I have sent him money, but I told him tonight I'm not sending anymore. Is there anything a parent can do with an adult child that just won't grow up?
A - Dear Lorena,
My heart goes out to you......itās a familiar pain. I will assume that youāve done everything in your power to provide him with a good education and a good upbringing. Some young people are simply fearful of going out into the big world and providing for themselves and they feel that if they fall down mommy will be there to kiss their skinned knees and to pick them up ...................again.
What do you do? You tell him you love him, direct him to the local social services and close the door. The only way heāll grow, is to be left, now, to his own resources. Youāve heard the old saw about, ĪYou can lead a horse to water, but you canāt make him drinkā? Well, everything was there.......repeat WAS there, itās now up to him to find his own water.
No one ever said being a parent was easy............This is the time for YOU, if you are a believer in same to pray.........lots.
- Annabelle
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